“Ingane enelanga futhi ejabule yingane ekwazi ukuzimela.Yena (yena) unamandla okubhekana nazo zonke izinhlobo zobunzima empilweni futhi azitholele eyakhe indawo emphakathini.”Indlela yokukhulisa ingane enelanga ngokwengqondo futhi ihlala kude nobumnyama??Kuze kube manje, siqoqe uchungechunge lweziphakamiso ezisebenza kakhulu ezivela kochwepheshe abaningi bokukhulisa abazali kuya kubazali.
1. Ukuqeqesha ikhono lezingane lokuba zodwa
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi umuzwa wokulondeka awuwona umuzwa wokuncika.Uma ingane idinga ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo okufudumele nokuzinzile, kudingeka futhi ifunde ukuba yodwa, njengokuyivumela ihlale yodwa ekamelweni eliphephile.
Ukuze ibe nomuzwa wokulondeka, ingane ayidingi ngempela ukuba nabazali babe khona ngaso sonke isikhathi.Noma engakwazi ukukubona kodwa uyokwazi enhliziyweni yakhe ukuthi ukhona.Ngezidingo ezihlukahlukene zezingane, abantu abadala kudingeka “baphendule” kunokuba “banelise” yonke into.
2. Ukwanelisa izingane ngezinga elithile
Kudingekile ukubeka imingcele ethile ngokuzenzekelayo, futhi izimfuneko zezingane azikwazi ukuhlangatshezwana nazo ngaphandle kwemibandela.Enye imfuneko yesimo sengqondo esijabulisayo ukuthi ingane ingakwazi ukubekezelela izithiyo ezingenakugwemeka nokudumazeka ekuphileni.
Kuphela lapho umntwana eqonda ukuthi ukuzuzwa kokuthile akuxhomekile esifisweni sakhe, kodwa emandleni akhe, lapho engathola khona ukugcwaliseka nenjabulo yangaphakathi.
Lapho ingane isheshe iliqonde leli qiniso, ubuhlungu bayo buyancipha.Akumele njalo unelise izifiso zengane yakho kwasekuqaleni.Okufanele ukwenze ukuhlehlisa kancane.Isibonelo, uma ingane ilambile, ungamvumela ukuba alinde imizuzu embalwa.Ungavumeli zonke izimfuno zengane yakho.Ukwenqaba ezinye zezimfuno zengane yakho kuyoyisiza ukuba ithole ukuthula kwengqondo okwengeziwe.
Ukwamukela lolu hlobo lokuqeqeshwa “okungokoqobo okungagculisi” emkhayeni kuzokwenza izingane zibe nokukhuthazela okwanele okungokwengqondo ukuze zibhekane nezingqinamba ekuphileni kwesikhathi esizayo.
3. Impatho ebandayo lapho izingane zithukuthele
Lapho ingane ithukuthela, indlela yokuqala iwukuchezukisa ukunaka kwayo futhi ithole indlela yokuyenza iye ekamelweni layo ukuze ithukuthele.Ngaphandle kwezilaleli, yena ngokwakhe uzothula kancane kancane.
Isijeziso esifanele, futhi ulandele kuze kube sekupheleni.Isu lokusho ukuthi “cha”: Esikhundleni sokuthi cha usomile, chaza ukuthi kungani kungasebenzi.Ngisho noma ingane ingaqondi, iyakwazi ukuqonda isineke sakho nenhlonipho ngayo ngayo.
Abazali kumelwe bavumelane omunye komunye, futhi omunye ngeke athi yebo omunye cha;kuyilapho uvimbela into eyodwa, mnike inkululeko yokwenza enye.
4. Myeke akwenze
Vumela ingane ukuthi yenze lokho ekwazi ukukwenza kusenesikhathi, futhi izoba matasa kakhulu ekwenzeni izinto esikhathini esizayo.Ungazenzi izinto ezeqisayo zengane, khulumela ingane, yenza izinqumo zengane, ngaphambi kokuthatha umthwalo, ungacabanga ngakho, mhlawumbe ingane ingakwazi ukuzenzela.
Okungafanele ukukusho: “Awukwazi, awukwazi ukwenza lokhu!”Vumela ingane "izame into entsha".Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abadala bayayenqabela ingane ukuthi yenze okuthile ngenxa nje yokuthi “ingakakwenzi”.Uma izinto zingeyona ingozi, vumela ingane yakho izizame.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Jun-06-2023